When You Cannot Pray

Scripture

Romans 8:26-27 (New International Version)

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.

Consider

When we feel angry and hurt over someone’s unfair treatment of us, the idea of praying for the good of this person may seem an impossible task. It’s probably way down on our list of things to do, right behind forgiveness.

If you find yourself in that hard and stubborn place, give yourself some time to heal and regain a bigger perspective. In the meantime, if you cannot pray for your offender, pray for yourself. Don’t allow this injury to put God at a distance but lay out your feelings and your desires before him, even if they are difficult to face or verbalize.

Take comfort in the thought that God never abandons us, even in the midst of an ugly relationship conflict. He does not stop listening to us even when our words are dark and malicious, vengeful or despairing.

Be assured, also, that the Holy Spirit is always close—inside us—and praying the very words that we ourselves cannot pray. If we keep our hearts open to God, the Spirit’s words will eventually move us away from our distress and stubbornness and into the will our Father has for us.

Pray

FATHER, thank you that even when my heart is divided because of strife in a relationship, your Spirit is faithfully praying for me and seeking to realign me with your will. Give me ears to hear what your Spirit is praying on my behalf and grace to surrender my divided heart for your healing.

Reflect

Psalm 86:11; John 14:16-17

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