The Good From the Bad and the Ugly

Scripture

Psalm 50:15 (New Living Translation)

Replace the evil years with good.

Consider

A powerful stumbling block to forgiving is our belief that someone has robbed us of precious time. We may have spent years in an abusive or unhappy relationship feeling angry, afraid, and helpless. We may have survived childhood wounding only to sacrifice adult years to low self-esteem, underachievement, addictions, or poor relationship choices. We may be convinced that until our lost time is restored to us, we can’t consider forgiving the person who cheated us.

Fortunately, our God is in the business of redeeming not only lost souls for eternity but also lost time for his good purpose. When we surrender to him our wounded hearts and painful memories, God can reach back into the ugly, shameful events of our lost years and create something beautiful and valuable for our future.

Consider the good that may have come to you because of the way you were injured. For example, can you identify with any of these statements?

  • I learned that I was strong enough to survive unjust and painful circumstances.
  • God proved to me that he is faithful.
  • Through my ordeal I’ve been convinced of God’s love for me.
  • God chose to reveal to me something about himself that I would not otherwise have understood.
  • I now feel compassion for others who have suffered in the same ways that I have.
  • My choices, however misguided at the time, have brought people and circumstances into my life that now bless me.
  • God gave me gifts—uniquely shaped by my experience—that I can use to help and encourage others.
  • I’ve learned to love truth and light and to seek after God’s kingdom.

Our God is in the business of redeeming lost lives and lost years. We can trust him to reshape our dark and ugly experiences in the light of his love for us and his promise to give us hope and a future.

Pray

FATHER, I give you my wounds and ask you to change how I think about them. I trust you to create something beautiful from what has only caused me pain and hardship. Teach me how to live a positive and useful life not only in spite of my lost years but also because of them.

Reflect

Genesis 50:20;  Jeremiah 29:11;  1 John 5:4-5

Share

How has God used something ugly in your life to teach you something good and useful that you can share with others?

Book Review: Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers

To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you. —C. S. Lewis

About the Book

Leslie Leyland Fields’s book is a practical and compelling guide to surrendering our painful childhood wounds to the healing work of forgiveness. The author explores the biblical and emotional ramifications of forgiving hurtful parents by offering keen insights and examples from her own struggles to forgive a distant and rejecting father. Her journey can be summed up in the subtitle for her book: “Finding Freedom from Hurt and Hate.”

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Look For the Good

Scripture

Philippians 4:8,9 (New International Version)

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.…And the God of peace will be with you.

Consider

There is little in this world that is wholly bad or wholly worthless. This is especially true of people. Sometimes people annoy us, betray us, or seriously injure us. Some may rob us of something valuable and show no remorse. Others may treat us with indifference.

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Your Beautiful Essence

Scripture

1 John 3:2-3 (New Living Translation)

Dear friends, we are already God’s children, but he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is. And all who have this eager expectation will keep themselves pure, just as he is pure.

Consider

God has given us an amazing promise. Not only will we receive eternal life but we will be changed into the likeness of the Son and will share in his glory.

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Words Like Honey

Scripture

Proverbs 16:24 (New International Version)

Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Consider

In giving us the gift of human speech, God also gives us a serious responsibility. Words spoken to one another have an almost magical power to heal or to hurt. Gracious, kindly words cost us little, yet so often we withhold them out of stubbornness or pique. Even our silence can sting when someone needs the balm of our forgiveness.

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