Unrighteous Judges

Scripture

Luke 6:37 (New Living Translation)

Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.

Consider

Judgment is a tricky subject for Christians. On the one hand, we are told to be wise to the ways of evil and mindful of how our hearts can be influenced by false teachings and cultural values that lead us away from God. On the other hand, we are not to put ourselves in the place of God and judge one another. The judging habit Jesus condemns in this passage is not the wise discernment necessary to avoid acting in wicked ways but is rather the petty and arrogant condemnation of others.

Such judgment is not rooted in the desire to please God, nor is it rooted in loving concern for another, although we may disguise it as such and couch our criticism in “loving” language. The kind of judging Jesus condemns is rooted in pride and the need to elevate ourselves at the expense of another person. It is not surprising that those who are quick to judge others are often quick to feel themselves judged—they are easily offended, keenly sensitive to criticism, and heavily invested in deflecting shame away from themselves. They derive satisfaction, even comfort and relief, from pointing out another’s guilt when it makes them look better by comparison.

Who are we to judge other people’s motives, as if we can look into their hearts or read their minds? Why do we think we know what God wants from others or how he is working in their lives? What can another person’s righteousness—or unrighteousness—have to do with me?

If we look to the root of our judging habit, we will probably discover fear and insecurity about our own worth and the rightness of our own behaviors.

When we are tempted to judge others, we might ask ourselves, How could exposing this person’s flaw or error somehow benefit me? The answer might lead us to a fear or flaw in ourselves that we can surrender to God’s judgment and ultimate healing.

Pray

FATHER, I confess I have often usurped your sovereign authority and assumed the role of judge over my neighbors. I am ashamed to think how I have hurt others and created conflict because of my arrogant and unfair assumptions. Forgive me for my habit of pointing a finger at others so I can keep my own flaws and insecurities hidden. Help me overcome this habit of judging others and learn to love and forgive them instead.

Reflect

Matthew 18:9-14; James 4:11-12

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What are your “hot buttons” or issues about which you are most prone to judge your neighbor?

God Wants It All

Scripture

1 Thessalonians 5:23-24 (New Living Translation)

Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.

Consider

On the day God redeems us, he redeems the whole package. From that moment on, every bit of us belongs to him: our spirit, our body, our soul—and our relationships! His desire is to make us holy and fully conformed to the beautiful nature of Jesus.

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Breaking the Chains of Disappointment

Scripture

2 Peter 2:19 (New International Version)

People are slaves to whatever has mastered them.

Psalm 146:7 (New International Version)

The Lord sets prisoners free.

Consider

If I find that I cannot get past a hurtful event, or if forgiving the person who offended me seems impossible, then I have made myself a prisoner of that relationship disappointment.

Note the wording: I have not made myself a prisoner of the person but of the relationship disappointment. My offender may have no wish to exert power over me or to see me suffer.

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Facing A Brother’s Anger

Scripture

Matthew 5:23-24 (English Standard Version)

So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer your gift.

Consider

The wording of this passage has always intrigued me. I somehow expect Jesus to say, “If you remember that you have something against your brother, go and be reconciled.” Well, okay, that makes sense. God wants us to be forgiving.

Instead, Jesus requires something more difficult.

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Growing Into the Positive

Scripture

Ephesians 4:31-32 (New Living Translation)

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Consider

Last week’s devotional suggested giving up a destructive attitude or habit as a Lenten discipline. Today’s look at the same Ephesians passage takes our Lenten journey one step further—with each negative behavior we abandon, we make room for positive growth.

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