What to Give Up for Lent

Scripture

Ephesians 4:31 (New Living Translation)

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Consider

Ash Wednesday is right around the corner. What are you giving up for Lent?

Lent is a traditional 40-day season of reflection, repentance, and self-denial as we remember Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for our salvation and the triumph of his resurrection. The purpose of “giving up something for Lent” (traditionally, fasting) is to learn to depend on God by temporarily abandoning those things in our lives that we fear we cannot live without. In a mild observance of Lent, we might give up something we enjoy, like chocolate or caffeine or television. A more serious sacrifice, however, might mean surrendering a deep-rooted habit or a self-protective attitude that nevertheless hinders our obedient and joyful walk with God.

In the Ephesians passage above, Paul names some idols that tend to rule our lives in the place of God and are hurtful to our relationships. As we approach the season of Lent, you might consider abandoning one of these idols in your life, even if only for a week at a time.

To give up an idol for one week, commit to the following three steps:

  • Notice every instance of this idol in your life. (For example, if your chosen idol is “slander,” notice every occasion when you are tempted to speak falsely and negatively about another person, even if you think he or she “deserves” it.)
  • Notice the appearance of this idol in those around you (Recognize when others are speaking slander or gossip to you about another person.)
  • Determine that, for at least this one week, you will not submit yourself to the rule of this particular idol. (You will neither listen to nor speak slander about any other person.)

Additional tip: Consider keeping a Lenten journal so that you can record your daily experiences and note how God is working in your life.

Pray

FATHER, I know I will never be worthy of the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for my sins. Thank you for pursuing my heart and calling me to a life of integrity. Help me to abandon the habits and selfish desires that harm my relationships and keep me distant from you. Protect me from Satan as you test my character and teach me how to depend on you.

Reflect

Joel 2:12; Jonah 2:8-9

Share

Name a destructive habit or attitude that would be difficult for you to abandon for more than a week.

Choose Life!

Scripture

Deuteronomy 30:15,19 (New Living Translation)

“Now listen! Today I am giving you a choice between life and death, between prosperity and disaster….Oh, that you would choose life.”

Consider

Choosing life means surrendering our hearts and minds to God’s loving authority. Choosing death means leaving God out of our lives so we can go our own way.

When it comes to relationships, we choose life when we seek out others who will honor and support our walk with God. Life-nurturing companions respect our desire to learn God’s ways and obey his laws.

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Unseen Help

Scripture

Psalm 34:6-7 (New International Version)

This poor man called, and the Lord heard him; he saved him out of all his troubles. The angel of the Lord camps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.

Consider

God’s promises to us are specific: We are never alone. He never abandons us. We are never far from help.

We fail to grasp these truths and trust in God’s constant vigilance because our human sight is so limited and we trust in ourselves too much.

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God On My Heart

Scripture

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 (New International Version)

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Consider

God wants to imprint his very nature on our hearts and minds. He wants to be so real and present for us that we instinctively turn to him when conflicts and relationship hurts arise.

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Are My Flaws Showing?

Scripture

1 John 4:17-18 (New Century Version)

This is how love is made perfect in us: that we can be without fear on the day God judges us, because in this world we are like him. Where God’s love is, there is no fear, because God’s perfect love drives out fear. It is punishment that makes a person fear, so love is not made perfect in the person who fears.

Consider

Why does criticism hurt? Why does betrayal seem unforgivable? Why do mistakes shame us and trigger defensive maneuvers?

The answer is fear of judgment. We fear being exposed for inadequacies that would make others despise us.

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