Growing through Conflict

Scripture

2 Peter 1:3-4 NIV

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.

Consider

No matter how carefully we speak or how respectfully we treat one another, we cannot always avoid conflict. Disagreements may arise organically as people encounter different temperaments, cultural backgrounds, economic and political viewpoints, and religious convictions. Add to the mix our emotional histories and personal triggers, and we may find a reasonable disagreement escalating into an angry and painful conflict that leaves people bruised and relationships in shreds.

As a result, we may come to view any conflict as threatening. We then train ourselves to survive the battle either by avoiding it altogether or by approaching it fully armed and determined to win.

Instead of viewing conflict as a threat, however, we can recognize it as a spiritual opportunity. God invites us to grow through such an experience, rather than skirting around it or aggressively pushing for our advantage. We can learn to face conflict by stepping closer to God and sharing his heart and his will for the situation. As we seek God’s heart, God will use the experience to grow our faith and teach us to bear fruit in challenging circumstances.

Growing through conflict means growing in grace. Through the power of God’s Spirit, we stand firm in the midst of a conflict and effect what good we can for the sake of God’s kingdom. We rely on the Spirit to give us the love and strength we need to engage people in positive ways, helping and healing rather than hurting.

Growing through conflict means relying on our knowledge of God. We get to know God through Bible study and listening prayers. Our knowledge of God helps us make wise decisions when we face disputes, and our experience of God’s faithfulness gives us courage to speak and act with integrity, even when we don’t know how the other person will respond.

Growing through conflict means trusting God’s promises. God has promised to give us everything we need to live a godly life, to secure a place for us in his eternal family, to fight for us against evil, and to create in us a pure and holy heart. With such divine assurances, we can afford to be kindly and respectful in any conflict we encounter.

Pray

Loving Father, I have viewed conflict with fear and anxiety, causing me either to withdraw into myself or to lash out without regard for the harm I might inflict. Help me to pause and seek your heart before I react to challenges and disagreements. Give me listening ears that I may discern the good outcome you would desire and the role you would have me play, for the good of your children and the glory of your Name.

Reflect

2 Corinthians 1:21-22; 2 Peter 3:17-18

Ponder

How do I typically respond to conflict? What assurance do I need from God to help me respond more maturely?

For Goodness’ Sake

Scripture

Matthew 6:1-4 NIV

“Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven. When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth, they have received all the reward they will ever get. But when you give to someone in need, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. Give your gifts in private, and your Father, who sees everything, will reward you.”

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Too Proud to See

Scripture

John 9:39-41 NIV

Jesus said, “For judgment I have come into this world, so that the blind will see and those who see will become blind.” Some Pharisees who were with him heard him say this and asked, “What? Are we blind too?” Jesus said, “If you were blind, you would not be guilty of sin; but now that you claim you can see, your guilt remains.”

Consider

Jesus had just healed a man who had been blind from birth. Not only could this man now see in the physical sense, but Jesus had also restored his spiritual sight. The man, grateful and humble, now “saw” Jesus’ divinity.

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Practicing the Law of Christ

Scripture

Galatians 6:1-3 NLT

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.

Consider

In this passage, Paul urges the Galatian Christians to show their love for one another by noticing when a fellow believer is in distress and to offer help.

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How to Deal with Mud-Churners

Scripture

Isaiah 57:15, 20-21 NLT

The high and lofty one who lives in eternity, the Holy One, says this: “I live in the high and holy place with those whose spirits are contrite and humble. I restore the crushed spirits of the humble and revive the courage of those with repentant hearts…But those who still reject me are like the restless sea, which is never still but continually churns up mud and dirt. There is no peace for the wicked,” says my God.

Consider

Have you ever known people who like to stir up trouble? You might live with such a person or encounter one at a family gathering.

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