Don’t Borrow Trouble

Scripture

Matthew 6:34 MSG

Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.

Consider

When we’ve been stung by an unexpected painful event, we may try to anticipate what terrible thing might happen next so that we can somehow armor ourselves against it. The problem is, we get so good at visualizing what might happen that we start believing it will happen, and we only add to our distress.

  • If someone hurts us, we fear being hurt again.
  • If someone betrays us, we anticipate another betrayal.
  • If we’ve been cheated or lied to, we worry how to protect ourselves from being fooled a second time.

Wounds inflicted by someone we know and trust catch us off guard and expose our vulnerabilities. We may feel embarrassed by our gullibility and compelled to withdraw our trust from a relationship. Instinct to protect ourselves kicks in and fuels our imagination. We play out scenarios in our heads and get ourselves worked up over anticipated pain and offenses that may never happen.

Instead of protecting us, however, such anxiety-induced behaviors often make things worse. We blur the lines between actual and imagined offenses. Instead of believing the best about someone, we may assume the worst and act on faulty presumptions just so we can feel safe. Tragically, the very outcome we fear and dread can become more likely as we act on the firm belief that it will happen.

Jesus warns his disciples not to anticipate trouble. In our finiteness, we cannot see into the future nor into another person’s mind and heart as only God the Father can do. Instead, we are to attend to the present, face every circumstance with faith and obedience as followers of Christ, and trust God to see us through whatever comes next.

Pray

Loving Father, when conflict makes me feel exposed and vulnerable, anxiety about what might happen next can take control of my mind and drive me deeper into fear and defensiveness. Be my hiding place at such times. Take control of my imagination, and instead of visualizing trouble, let me see how you have helped me in the past. Replace my arrogance with the realization that I cannot see into other people’s hearts no matter how well I think I know them.

Reflect

Psalm 32:7; 1 Peter 5:7

Ponder

How might my anticipating trouble actually make it more likely to happen?

In the Wake of Loss

Scripture

Luke 24:13-21a NRSV

Now on that same day two of them were going to a village called Emmaus, about seven miles from Jerusalem, and talking with each other about all these things that had happened. While they were talking and discussing, Jesus himself came near and went with them, but their eyes were kept from recognizing him.

Consider

Two of Jesus’ disciples are heading out of Jerusalem, unaware that their Lord has that very day been raised from the dead. In the wake of their devastating loss, they encounter the Risen Christ, but they don’t realize who he is. When we suffer personal loss or betrayal, we may find ourselves reacting like these disciples and fail to notice the Lord standing right beside us.

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Do You Love Me?

Scripture

John 21:15-17 NLT

After breakfast Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter replied, “you know I love you.” “Then feed my lambs,” Jesus told him. Jesus repeated the question: “Simon son of John, do you love me?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter said, “you know I love you.” “Then take care of my sheep,” Jesus said. A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.”

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The Weight of Two Witnesses

Scripture

2 Corinthians 13:1 NLT

As the Scriptures say, “The facts of every case must be established by two or three witnesses.”

Consider

Angry, wounded people may ask themselves: “If I give up my anger, how will anyone know I’ve been hurt?” Crimes that are committed in secret can be especially difficult to bear or to forgive. Incest, rape, emotional abuse, ridiculing, successful swindling—these injuries might only be confirmed by the two people involved, you and the perpetrator. With no one else to vouch for you, the person who wounded you may downplay the harm done to you.

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Good Soil

Scripture

Numbers 13:17-18, 20 NIV

When Moses sent them to explore Canaan, he said, “Go up through the Negev and on into the hill country. See what the land is like and whether the people who live there are strong or weak, few or many….How is the soil? Is it fertile or poor? Are there trees on it or not? Do your best to bring back some of the fruit of the land.”

Consider

I once took a horticulture class, and our professor emphasized the importance and distinctiveness of soil. “Don’t call it dirt!” he said. “Soil has both structure and function to support living growth.”

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