Look for the Good

Scripture

Philippians 4:8-9 ESV

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

Consider

There is little in God’s created world that is wholly bad or wholly worthless. This is especially true of people. Sometimes people annoy us, betray us, or seriously injure us. Some may rob us of something valuable and show no remorse. Others may treat us with indifference.

Because we are children of the Most High, however, we understand—perhaps better than anyone—that outward behaviors, whether good or bad, cannot alter a person’s worth. We are each precious bearers of God’s image, every one of us.

When we’ve been hurt by others, we may be tempted to close our minds against hearing or thinking anything good about them. But Scripture reminds us to look for the good as God faithfully looks for the good in us. Looking for the good doesn’t mean we are in denial or delusional but rather correcting distortions that keep us from seeing the whole person. When we diligently look for the good in someone, we can usually find it.

Finding the good in people is a skill we can practice. We begin by recognizing that, despite our flaws and failures and sometimes our outright rebellion, God remains faithful to us, always working in our best interests and loving us with extravagant and unconditional love. When we deeply grasp how far God came to save us and how undeserving of his mercies we truly are, we find it easier to overlook flaws and failures in those around us. We can love and forgive others with the very same love and grace that God lavishes on us. Just as we want God to notice what is good and right about us, we know that others need our positive regard as well.

When humility and thankfulness replace the bitterness in our hearts, kinder words come out of our mouths, and peace and healing are not far behind.

Pray

Loving Father, it is so easy to close my mind against someone who has hurt me. I confess I do not want to look for the good because I’d rather fuel my resentment and justify my anger and hurt. Teach me to be more like you and to see the whole person without distortions. Show me the goodness you see in these people whom you love so dearly that you sacrificed your Son to save them.

Reflect

Psalm 139:1-6; Hosea 5:14

Ponder

Do I really believe there is good in everyone?

Prayer Partner

Scripture

Romans 8:26-27 NLT

And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.

Consider

Have you ever prayed and prayed for an outcome until you began to wonder if God was even listening? When you don’t get the answer to prayer that you want or expect, it may be that the Holy Spirit is praying something different.

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A Sound Mind

Scripture

2 Timothy 1:6-7 NKJV

Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

Consider

In this letter to Timothy, Paul reminds his young friend not to give in to fear but to stand firm as God’s person in the face of political persecution and personal attacks. Remember your faith, he tells Timothy, and let God’s grace and gifting define who you are and how you behave. That’s good advice for any follower of Christ.

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Someone Knows

Scripture

Psalm 56:8 NLT

You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.

Consider

When we’ve been hurt in a relationship, we naturally want justice. We may seek punishment for the offender, compensation for our injury, or an apology for what we have suffered. Perhaps more than anything, we want to set the record straight. We need the relief of saying out loud what happened to us and to know that our truth has been heard, believed, and valued by another human being.

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Unreliable Witness

Scripture

Deuteronomy 17:6 NLT

Never put a person to death on the testimony of only one witness. There must always be two or three witnesses.

Consider

Accusations leveled against others are always serious business. God’s law protected innocent people from wrongful condemnation by requiring the testimony of more than one witness. We can take this warning to a personal level and realize that we often accuse people with only our own perceptions to guide us. Unfortunately, these perceptions are subject to a number of influences that can distort our opinions and memories of an event.

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