What to Give Up for Lent

Scripture

Ephesians 4:31 NLT

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Consider

Ash Wednesday is right around the corner. What are you giving up for Lent?

Lent is a traditional 40-day season of reflection, repentance, and self-denial as we remember Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for our salvation and the triumph of his resurrection. The purpose of “giving up something for Lent” (traditionally, fasting) is to learn to depend on God by temporarily abandoning those things in our lives that we fear we cannot live without.

In a mild observance of Lent, we might give up something we enjoy, like chocolate or caffeine or social media. A more serious sacrifice might mean surrendering a deep-rooted habit or a self-protective attitude that somehow hinders our obedient and joyful walk with God.

In the Ephesians passage above, Paul names some habits that tend to blind us to God’s ways and damage our relationships. As we approach the season of Lent, you might consider abandoning one of these habits in your life, even if only for a week at a time.

To give up a hurtful habit for one week, commit to the following three steps:

  • Notice every instance of this habit in your life. For example, if your chosen habit is “slander,” notice every occasion when you are tempted to speak falsely or negatively about another person, even if you think he or she “deserves” it.
  • Notice the appearance of this habit in those around you. Recognize when others are speaking slander or gossip to you about another person.
  • Determine that, for at least this one week, you will not submit yourself to the rule of this particular habit. You will neither listen to nor speak slander about any other person.

Additional tip: Consider keeping a Lenten journal to help you reflect on your daily experiences. Notice how God is working with you on this issue.

Pray

Heavenly Father, thank you for pursuing my heart and calling me to a life of integrity. Help me to abandon the habits and selfish desires that harm my relationships and keep me distant from you. Protect me from evil as you test my character and teach me how to depend on you.

Reflect

Joel 2:12-13; Jonah 2:8-9

Ponder

Is there a destructive habit or attitude that would be difficult for me to abandon for even one week?

Impossible Peace

Scripture

Romans 12:18 NIV

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Consider

The apostle Paul urges us to live in peace with one another, yet he also acknowledges that peace is not necessarily within our grasp. A conflict always has two sides to consider, and the other person may not want peace or reconciliation. Even the wisest words have no effect on people who are not willing to listen. Some people view conflict as a contest they must win by seeing the other side defeated. Sometimes our attempts to bring peace only seem to provoke more resentment.

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Expect God

Scripture

Isaiah 40:31 ESV

But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

Consider

Dealing with a difficult relationship can be exhausting. We spend our energy on heated arguments or stubborn silences, and then we replay the hurtful scenes over and over in our minds. With the diligence of a defense attorney bringing our case to trial, we review the particulars and construct a narrative that explains exactly what the offenses are and who is to blame.

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The Narrow Gate

Scripture

Matthew 7:13-14 NRSV

Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the road is easy that leads to destruction, and there are many who take it. For the gate is narrow and the road is hard that leads to life, and there are few who find it.

Consider

Discipleship is not an easy road. The Greek word for “disciple” in the New Testament means both a learner and an adherent, that is, one who studies with a teacher for instruction and also imitates the teacher as the ideal model. It is no coincidence that “disciple” and “discipline” come from the same Latin root.

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When We Can’t Feel God’s Love

Scripture

Psalm 143:6-7 NLT

I lift my hands to you in prayer. I thirst for you as parched land thirsts for rain. Come quickly, LORD, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die.

Consider

Even King David, a man after God’s own heart, suffered from depression. Anyone who has struggled with depression knows its paralyzing effects and tunnel vision. David was no exception. Why does he complain of thirst for God when God is ever present with life-giving water? Because David is in emotional distress so gripping that he cannot perceive God’s loving nearness.

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