Lord of Troubled Relationships

Scripture

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Consider

When we choose to follow Christ, he takes ownership of everything about us—our bodies, our thoughts and behaviors, our plans, our dreams. He gives us the Holy Spirit to help us align our hearts with his and to accomplish the work he has particularly assigned each of us to do.

In addition, the price he paid for us includes his right to lordship over our relationships.

What does that mean? According to Romans 7:4, it means that we invest ourselves in our relationships always with the intent to bear fruit to God. We honor God and bring glory to his Name when we treat one another kindly and patiently, when we put another’s needs ahead of our own, when we keep our promises and forgive another’s hurtful treatment of us.

Our submission to Christ’s lordship becomes most apparent—and perhaps most difficult—when our relationships are troubled. Dealing with a difficult person challenges us to repeatedly lay aside our private desires in favor of God’s desires. When we are tempted to respond to offensive people with angry speech or a cold shoulder or secret backbiting, then we can remember that Christ bought even this irksome relationship for a high price, and it is his right to determine the outcome. He asks us to submit to him our attitudes, our feelings, and our will so that he, in turn, can direct our responses according to his own plans and purposes, not ours.

Pray

FATHER, you know the difficulties I have had with particular people in my life. I ask you now to be lord of those relationships. I surrender my heart to your purpose and my habits for your correction. Give me grace through your Spirit to change my thoughts and attitudes, to be careful with my words, and to be ever mindful that everything I say and do reflects on you, my Lord.

Reflect

Luke 6:43-45; Romans 7:4

Ponder

If I give control of my difficult relationship to Christ, what might he ask me to do?

When You Cannot Pray

Scripture

Romans 8:26-27 NIV

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.

Consider

When we feel angry and hurt over someone’s unfair treatment of us, the idea of praying for the good of this person may seem an impossible task. It’s probably way down on our list of things to do, right behind forgiveness.

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The Empty Tomb

Scripture

Luke 24:1-8 NLT

But very early on Sunday morning the women went to the tomb, taking the spices they had prepared, They found that the stone had been rolled away from the entrance. So they went in, but they didn’t find the body of the Lord Jesus. As they stood there puzzled, two men suddenly appeared to them, clothed in dazzling robes.

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Released to Bless

Scripture

Acts 5:17-21 NIV

Then the high priest and all his associates, who were members of the party of the Sadducees, were filled with jealousy. They arrested the apostles and put them in the public jail. But during the night an angel of the Lord opened the doors of the jail and brought them out. “Go, stand in the temple courts,” he said, “and tell the people the full message of this new life.” At daybreak they entered the temple courts, as they had been told, and began to teach the people.

Consider

The Jewish religious leaders arrested the apostles because they were filled with jealousy.

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Inside God’s Wall

Scripture

Nehemiah 1:3-4 NIV

They said to me, “Those who survived the exile and are back in the province are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates have been burned with fire.” When I heard these things, I sat down and wept.

Consider

Nehemiah was still in exile, serving a Persian king, when he learned that his fellow Jews, who had returned from exile to his homeland, were “in great trouble and disgrace.” Why? Because the holy city, the center of their worship and identity, was without a wall.

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