What to Give Up for Lent

Scripture

Ephesians 4:31 NLT

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Consider

Ash Wednesday is right around the corner. What are you giving up for Lent?

Lent is a traditional 40-day season of reflection, repentance, and self-denial as we remember Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for our salvation and the triumph of his resurrection. The purpose of “giving up something for Lent” (traditionally, fasting) is to learn to depend on God by temporarily abandoning those things in our lives that we fear we cannot live without.

In a mild observance of Lent, we might give up something we enjoy, like chocolate or caffeine or social media. A more serious sacrifice might mean surrendering a deep-rooted habit or a self-protective attitude that somehow hinders our obedient and joyful walk with God.

In the Ephesians passage above, Paul names some habits that tend to blind us to God’s ways and damage our relationships. As we approach the season of Lent, you might consider abandoning one of these habits in your life, even if only for a week at a time.

To give up a hurtful habit for one week, commit to the following three steps:

  1. Notice every instance of this habit in your life. For example, if your chosen habit is “slander,” notice every occasion when you are tempted to speak falsely or negatively about another person, even if you think he or she “deserves” it.
  2. Notice the appearance of this habit in those around you. Recognize when others are speaking slander or gossip to you about another person.
  3. Determine that, for at least this one week, you will not submit yourself to the rule of this particular habit. You will neither listen to nor speak slander about any other person.

Additional tip: Consider keeping a Lenten journal to help you reflect on your daily experiences. Notice how God is working with you on this issue.

Pray

Heavenly Father, thank you for pursuing my heart and calling me to a life of integrity. Help me to abandon the habits and selfish desires that harm my relationships and keep me distant from you. Protect me from evil as you test my character and teach me how to depend on you.

Reflect

Joel 2:12-13; Jonah 2:8-9

Ponder

Is there a destructive habit or attitude that would be difficult for me to abandon for even one week?

God’s Delight

Scripture

Ephesians 1:4,5 NLT

Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

Consider

A remarkable truth about God is how he delights in loving us. It gives him great joy to walk with us, to cherish and bless us, and to guide and discipline us so that we can approach the holiness for which he formed and made us.

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Open Door

Scripture

Matthew 23:13-14 NLT

“What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you shut the door of the Kingdom of Heaven in people’s faces. You won’t go in yourselves, and you don’t let others enter either.”

Consider

When we choose to follow Christ as Lord, God gives us the privilege and responsibility to shine his goodness and mercy in whatever circumstances we find ourselves. Paul references this truth in his letter to the young church at Corinth when he observes that God makes his appeal to unbelievers through the good deeds of his people.

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That Sin Is Mine

Scripture

1 John 1:8-9 ESV

If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Consider

A good first step toward resolving a quarrel is to examine our own hearts for sin before we start accusing others of theirs. Confessing our own contribution to a conflict is a humbling act that can immediately cool hot tempers and pave the way toward productive communication. Reluctance to admit our sin stems from a stubborn need to be right and morally superior.

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Pain Without Poison

Scripture

Romans 12:12 NIV

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Consider

Pain is a sure indicator that we have been somehow injured. Physical pain alerts us to damage in our body and the need to take immediate action. Whether the result of physical trauma, stress, or disease, pain captures our attention and motivates us to do something to relieve it. Similarly, emotional pain tells us that we have suffered an injury to the heart. The cause might be personal betrayal by a friend or someone’s impersonal act that nevertheless hurts us.

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