How to Deal with Mud-Churners

Scripture

Isaiah 57:15, 20-21 (NLT)

The high and lofty one who lives in eternity, the Holy One, says this: “I live in the high and holy place with those whose spirits are contrite and humble. I restore the crushed spirits of the humble and revive the courage of those with repentant hearts…But those who still reject me are like the restless sea, which is never still but continually churns up mud and dirt. There is no peace for the wicked,” says my God.

Consider

Have you ever known people who like to stir up trouble? You might live with such a person, or you might encounter one at a family gathering or a community meeting. These mud-churners can’t seem to resist stirring the pot; they throw down words like gauntlets just to see the effect. Their well-aimed barbs cause others to feel pain and embarrassment, confusion and anger, while they puff themselves up and enjoy their sense of power and control.

Those nasty barbs are especially painful when they are inflicted by those we love best. Our friends and family know us well and can wound us where we are most tender and vulnerable. Whether their attack is indirect, as in malicious gossip to a third party, or a direct verbal assault, our pain is doubled when we feel our trust has been betrayed. We express anger or indignation, but inside our spirits are crushed and our hearts are bruised.

God’s words in the Isaiah passage give us keen insight into the mindset of a mud-churner. Unlike “those whose spirits are contrite and humble” (that is, those who live in the fear of the Lord), the mud-churner does not recognize God’s lordship over a situation but seizes control for self-gratification. Moreover, the peace that God promises to those who repent and seek his ways does not appeal to this person. The mud-churner’s actions oppose God’s ways in every sense—escalating conflict instead of promoting peace, hoping to hurt rather than to heal, sparking friction and discomfort, crushing spirits and damaging relationships.

God calls this person wicked and thereby gives us the key to effectively dealing with such a person. We view the situation as a spiritual battle, and we call on spiritual weapons to defend ourselves. We make God our fortress, we hold firm to our identity and worth as God’s valued child, and we obey God as best we can in a situation meant to throw us off-balance. We arm ourselves with grace and patience to counter the barbs. We resist slipping to the dark side of our nature despite provocation. We refuse to let this person’s words distort our thinking but hold onto the truth that God gives us about ourselves, our worth, and our purpose. We strive for peace and healing despite this person’s determination to injure and disrupt.

When we are faithful to serving God through such an assault, we may be surprised at the outcome. Our firm stand for peace and grace may be just the weapon God will use to pierce the mud-churner’s heart and expose the darkness that motivates such wicked intent.

Pray

FATHER, I have been the target of a mud-churner and felt the hurt and confusion of being under attack. Give me grace, I pray, to discern the spiritual ramifications of such a situation and to remember that you are my God and my fortress. Quell my human desire to retaliate or to crumble under my attacker’s words. Help me to stand firm and shine for you in every way. Guard me also from the wicked temptation to churn up mud myself; forgive me for the injuries I have caused with my own sharp words and selfish manipulations.

Reflect

Proverbs 2:6-15; Romans 12:19-21

Ponder

Who in your life might you consider a mud-churner? What grace do you need from God to help you stand firm in this person’s presence?

What to Give Up for Lent

Scripture

Ephesians 4:31 (NLT)

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Consider

Ash Wednesday is right around the corner. What are you giving up for Lent?

Lent is a traditional 40-day season of reflection, repentance, and self-denial as we remember Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for our salvation and the triumph of his resurrection. The purpose of “giving up something for Lent” (traditionally, fasting) is to learn to depend on God by temporarily abandoning those things in our lives that we fear we cannot live without.

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Go, So I Can Bless

Scripture

Genesis 12:1-3 (NRSV)

Now the LORD said to Abram, “Go from your country and your kindred and your father’s house to the land that I will show you. I will make you a great nation, and I will bless you, and make your name great, so that you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and the one who curses you I will curse; and in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.”

Consider

We can easily make the case that these three verses in Genesis 12 provide the foundation for God’s great story of redemption.

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Wilderness Time

Scripture

Mark 1:12-13 (NLT)

The Spirit then compelled Jesus to go into the wilderness, where he was tempted by Satan for forty days. He was out among the wild animals, and angels took care of him.

Consider

Jesus’ forty-day wilderness experience is a theological echo of Israel’s forty-year trek in the wilderness after their exodus from Egypt. For both Jesus and the Israelites, this period was an important test of character and a preparation for the ministry of bringing God’s message of life and saving grace to nations who did not know God.

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Shadows on the Heart

Scripture

Isaiah 1:15 (CEB)

When you extend your hands, I’ll hide my eyes from you. Even when you pray for a long time, I won’t listen. Your hands are stained with blood.

Consider

Isaiah begins this passage with a plea to turn back to the law of the Lord (1:10). Like the Israelites of Isaiah’s time, we, too, get lost in the rituals of prayer and worship and miss the point of the law—relationship. God cares exclusively about what motivates our worship and our prayers, not about how elaborate we make them.

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