Qualified to Comfort

Scripture

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.

Consider

Nobody likes pain. In fact, we take great measures to avoid pain, and when our measures fail, we may look for someone to blame. Pain interferes with the course we’ve set for our lives. Reversal of fortune, the onset of illness, unexpected grief, or disappointment in a relationship—these may seem unfair, as if life has taken a wrong turn, and we must find a way to get things back on track.

The vision of a painless life, however, is not biblical. Jesus tells his disciples that suffering is a natural and inevitable part of living in this world. Moreover, even though suffering is unpleasant, it does offer us two important gifts: It strengthens us to endure the troubles of this world, and it qualifies us to comfort others who are also suffering.

The “comfort” Paul talks about in the above passage is not relief from pain but companionship in the midst of pain. “Comfort” in the original language is paraklesis, which means “a calling to one’s side.” Our loving God comforts us by entering into our pain with us so we do not suffer alone. Unlike aspirin, which temporarily masks our pain, God reassures us of love and hope even as we continue to experience our pain. Quietly, through the grace of the Spirit, we can know peace in the midst of suffering while our character and faith are being strengthened.

As we receive comfort from God, Paul continues, we are to notice others in pain and give them comfort in like manner. In the particular case where others have wronged us and suffer guilt over it, we can love and forgive them, not to take away their guilt but to offer companionship as one who knows what it is like to stand in guilty shoes and suffer remorse. We can forgive because we have experienced the gift of God’s companionship in our own pain and guilt, qualifying us to enter into another sinner’s pain and offer comfort.

Pray

FATHER, when pain in my life is unavoidable, help me to find comfort in your love and companionship. Give me grace and wisdom to turn my suffering to good use, refining me and equipping me to help others who are suffering. Help me to offer forgiveness that comforts in place of condemnation, which only adds to another’s pain.

Reflect

John 16:33;  2 Corinthians 2:7

Ponder

In what ways does forgiveness offer loving companionship?

Take It Up, Take It In

Scripture

Isaiah 55:10-11 (TNIV)

As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.

Consider

As with a personal letter, God sends his word to us. The Bible is not a history book or a collection of interesting stories to be read passively and discarded. The Bible is Scripture, holy words from a holy God.

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Night Season

Scripture

Psalm 42:8 (Common Book of Worship)

The LORD grants loving-kindness in the daytime; in the night season the song of the LORD is with me, a prayer to the God of my life.

Consider

For some reason, our troubles can seem worse at night. As we lie awake on our beds in those silent hours of relentless dark, our worries weigh heavier, fear looms larger, grief pulls up forgotten sorrows, and remorse stings like shaming nettles. The night season can feel lonely. We may search for God without the hope and confidence that carried us through the daylight hours.

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To Cap or to Cure?

Scripture

Isaiah 65:1-2 (NLT)

The LORD says, “I was ready to respond, but no one asked for help. I was ready to be found, but no one was looking for me. I said, ‘Here I am, here I am!’ to a nation that did not call on my name. All day long I opened my arms to a rebellious people. But they follow their own evil paths and their own crooked schemes.”

Consider

In the aftermath of a hurtful event, when it’s time to choose whether we will cling to our bitterness or turn to God for relief and healing, why do we so often choose the dark path of bitterness?

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Love In the Ruins

Scripture

Isaiah 49:14-16 (NLT)

Yet Jerusalem says, “The LORD has deserted us; the Lord has forgotten us.”

“Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I would not forget you! See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands. Always in my mind is a picture of Jerusalem’s walls in ruins.”

Consider

Loving parents feel their children’s pain. They hurt when their children are disappointed or abused. They may shed tears along with the child who grieves for a lost pet or a painful separation.

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