A Yoke That Fits

Scripture

Matthew 11:28-30 (New Living Translation)

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

Consider

When we’re hit hard by a personal injury, our perspective gets skewed. The injury can seem enormous, engulfing our lives, our thoughts, and our sense of reality. We can’t see how we’ll ever get over it. We fear that our lives will never return to normal.

In a real sense that’s true—our lives are forever changed by such an injury, even if only in a lesson learned. Eventually, however, we realize that although the deed cannot be undone and our loss may be permanent, it is possible to heal and move on.

We get into trouble when we make our response to injury as permanent and immovable as the injury itself.

When we prolong our attachment to an injury, our initial, natural responses can harden into burdensome attitudes. Anger hardens into bitterness, disappointment into resentment, fear into anxiety. Prolonged sorrow traps us in despair. Attachment to our pain generates defensiveness and a self-righteous need to play the victim. Such maladaptive attitudes eventually coalesce into a yoke so heavy and ill-fitting that we end up injuring ourselves all over again.

Jesus offers to lift that crushing yoke from our shoulders and replace it with one of his own design. “Take my yoke,” he says, “and you will find rest for your souls.” The Message translates the passage in this way:

Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.

To accept the yoke of Christ is to live under the sovereignty and wisdom of his calling for us. He fits us with service perfectly designed to harmonize with our gifts and temperament and life experiences. Unlike a yoke of our own making, his yoke is not a burden but a help to us, a comfort and a guide, enabling us to live with power and purpose, generosity and joy.

Pray

FATHER, help me to surrender to you the burden of my attachment to injuries I’ve suffered and to experience the freedom of walking with you. I long for the peace and rest you promise. Guide my steps and teach me to recognize when the hurt I suffer comes not from the original harm but rather from an ill-fitting yoke that I have laid upon myself.

Reflect

Psalm 68:19; Jeremiah 6:16

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What harmful attitude keeps you attached to an injury and suffering under an ill-fitting yoke?

Caught!

Scripture

Galatians 6:1 (New International Version)

Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.

Consider

The phrase “someone who is caught in a sin” can be easily misinterpreted. It does not mean someone who has been discovered sinning but rather someone who has been ensnared by sin and cannot free himself. Like a fly in a spider’s trap, this person is caught in a sticky web and needs help from others to disentangle himself.

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I Am

Scripture

Exodus 3:13-14 (New International Version)

Moses said to God, “Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what shall I tell them?”

God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you.”

Consider

God told Moses to call him, I AM WHO I AM. Another way to translate this name is, I will be who I will be. The name tells us that God is the fixed point in all that is. He needs no reference point to define who he is or affirm his worth.

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Remember to Love

Scripture

1 Peter 4:8 (New International Version)

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

Consider

A hurtful conflict gives us the best opportunity to experience the healing power and reconciling nature of love.

When we have been hurt by another—betrayed, insulted, rejected, damaged physically or emotionally—we don’t always think of responding with love. Our knee-jerk response might be anger, defensiveness, or a need to hurt back. With some effort, we must remember to love instead.

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Don’t Borrow Trouble

Scripture

Matthew 6:34 (The Message)

Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.

Consider

When we are in the middle of a conflict, we may try to anticipate what terrible thing might happen next so that we can somehow armor ourselves against it. The problem is, we get so good at visualizing what might happen that we start believing it must happen, and we only add to our distress.

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