Scripture
Luke 6:27-31 (NIV)
Consider
Have you ever tried to push together the negative poles of two magnets? They repel each other, and the more you try to force them together, the stronger they resist connection. Short of an overriding external force, the only way those two magnets will come together is if one of them flips its position and approaches the other with its positive pole.
Relationships can be like that. When we are in the throes of conflict, approaching each other with our negative poles only increases our resistance to each other.