Growing Through Conflict

Scripture

2 Peter 1:3-4 (NIV)

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.

Consider

No matter how carefully we speak or how respectfully we treat one another, we cannot always avoid conflict. Disagreements may arise organically as people encounter different temperaments, cultural backgrounds, economic and political viewpoints, and religious convictions. Add to the mix our emotional histories and personal triggers, and we may find a reasonable disagreement escalating into an angry and painful conflict that leaves people bruised and relationships broken.

As a result, we may come to view any conflict as threatening. We then train ourselves to survive the battle either by avoiding it altogether or by approaching it fully armed and determined to win.

Instead of viewing it as a threat, however, we can recognize conflict as a spiritual opportunity. God invites us to grow through the experience, rather than skirting around it or aggressively pushing for our advantage. We can learn to face conflict by stepping closer to God and sharing his heart and his will for the situation. As we seek God’s heart, God will use the experience to grow our faith and teach us to bear fruit in challenging circumstances.

Growing through conflict means growing in grace. Through the power of God’s Spirit, we stand firm in the midst of a conflict and effect what good we can for the sake of God’s kingdom. We rely on the Spirit to give us the love and strength we need to engage people in positive ways, helping and healing rather than hurting.

Growing through conflict means relying on our knowledge of God. We get to know God through Bible study and listening prayers. Our knowledge of God helps us make wise decisions when we face disputes, and our experience of God’s faithfulness gives us courage to speak and act with integrity, even when we don’t know how the other person will respond.

Growing through conflict means trusting God’s promises. God has promised to give us everything we need to live a godly life, to secure a place for us in his eternal family, to fight for us against evil, and to create in us a pure and holy heart. With such divine assurances, we can afford to be generous and loving in any conflict we encounter.

Pray

FATHER, I have viewed conflict with fear and anxiety, causing me either to withdraw into myself or to lash out without regard for the harm I might inflict. Help me to pause and seek your heart before I react to challenges and disagreements. Give me listening ears that I may discern the good outcome you would desire and the role you would have me play, for the good of your children and the glory of your Name.

Reflect

2 Corinthians 1:21-22; 2 Peter 3:17-18

Ponder

How do you typically respond to conflict? What assurance do you need from God to help you respond differently?

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